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It’s come on suddenlywith such force.
She used to play.Outside.In the dark.
Now she won’tleave my side.Now she crieswhen I gooutfor dinner.
Let’s hope it’sa phase.
Powerful. This line got me, "It's come on suddenly/ with such force." Hoping your little one works this out soon. Fear is powerful and scary. I find hugs always help me. Thank you for sharing!
Suddenly …the world shifts and what we thought was solidnow and foreverno longer holds our feetto Earth anymore …My hand to your hand to mineand back again,we keep each other together,dancing in this gravity in the knowing that thismay too pass,if we trust each other to hold on.
KevinPS — I didn't have any good advice or comments that I could leave you so I did what I could to respond in poem, knowing it is rather inadequate to your situation. I hope her worries lessen. I hope yours does, too.
It's that surprise that does happen, and we don't know why, perhaps a dream, a comment from someone, hearing something that alarmed. Best wishes to you, Kimberley, and for your daughter.
So sad to hear about this and thank you for sharing something difficult. I don't have any advice either, but I am sending hope. Maybe a little mom time over the break will help her share what caused this.
I agree with Adrienne….now she will have some more mommy time and might be able to figure out why she is so frightened….and it could be a phase…but that does not make it any less fearful. With a little nurturing and hugs…she will probably start feeling brave again. It is hard growing up, but lucky she has a mom who is aware. Jackie http://familytrove.blogspot.com/2015/12/taking-plunge.html
It makes me so sad that our kids live such fearful lives. Hopefully she will be able to talk through this and move to a good spot again.
Kim, so tough to be a kid today and so challenging for parents as well. Your poem is a great place to begin to make sense of what is happening. I hope you keep the sharing coming…Bonnie
A great way to express your own "fear" or concern for your daughter – Time together might help – walking together outside at night explore what is beautiful about the dark, sharing stories about our fears and writing notes to each other were things I did when my daughter went through a phase of fears.
Gosh I feel so bad thinking that your young daughter is having such fears . . . but then I think with the craziness in the world today is it a wonder? I think of the little boy in France after the terrorist attack and how he said he needed to move where it would be safe, his dad tried to lesson his fear by reminding him of all the beauty that surrounds them . . . best of luck . . .
I went through that as a kid. I was in Grade 5 and it lasted about 8 months. I don't remember why it happened but my mom said it coincided with her going back to full time work. I remember that lots of patience and feeling loved helped me through it. Good luck.
Phew. What power in few words. Anxiety mine comes and goes is a challenge. Hugs.